I have known and worked with hundreds of sex addicts. And each one shares the same thing in common – a desire to get well.
The problem is a disconnect between our will and an actual plan to make it happen.
Benjamin Franklin was determined to avoid that trap. Ben identified 13 virtues that he wanted to cultivate, and then he developed a tool to make each one measurable and maintainable.
Here’s my challenge. Take a few minutes to write down three or four goals for your sobriety. Then write down one tool for each goal that will make that goal measurable and maintainable. Then, “whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men” (Colossians 3:23).
Recovery Step: The desire to overcome is a good start. But it is only a start. Identify the tools that are needed to make it happen – and then go to work.
Author: Mark Denison
Mark and Beth Denison, married for 36 years, launched There’s Still Hope as a national movement to call men and women into lives of sexual integrity. Their ministry offers 90-day recovery plans for addicts and one-on-one and group coaching for addicts and their spouses. TSH also produces resources for pastors and churches to confront the porn epidemic that is destroying so many lives.
Dr. Denison was a senior pastor for over 30 years, NBA chaplain, and board chairman at Houston Baptist University three times. With a Master’s Degree in Addiction Recovery, Mark is a certified PSAP and active member of the American Association of Christian Counselors.
Mark has written four books on recovery: Porn in the Pew, 365 Days to Sexual Integrity, A 90-Day Recovery Guide, and 40 Days to Porn-Free Living. His latest book, Jesus on the 12 Steps, will be released later this year.
