In the movie bearing his name, Jerry Maguire offered an impassioned speech to Dorothy, concluding with this memorable line: “You complete me.”
Many a young romantic has fallen into that same trap. We marry someone, expecting them to “complete us.” And we are invariably disappointed. Why? Because we are never made “complete” by another human being.
I love the sentiment of the iconic actress, Audrey Hepburn, who said, “If I get married, I want to be very married.”
It is important in marriage to go all in. But we must do so with a full recognition that marrying the best spouse in the world is no antidote for sexual sin.
Marriage must be a romantic partnership – and more. Joyce Brothers described marriage like this: “Marriage is not just a spiritual communion; it is also remembering to take out the trash.”
So what’s the lesson? If you are married, be very married. But don’t expect your spouse to complete you. That job is already taken.
Recovery Step: If you are married, be very married. But don’t place expectations on your spouse that only God can fill. The psalmist prayed, “You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore” (Psalm 16:11).
