It has long been my observation that virtually all addicts have in their past a combination of the following: (a) abuse, (b) trauma, and (c) isolation. Let’s talk about that first one – abuse. Specifically, emotional abuse.
Jill Bley, a clinical psychologist and sex therapist, estimates that 85-90 percent of sex addicts have suffered from some kind of emotional abuse.
For the abused among us, the Bible offers plentiful help. “Lord my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me” (Psalm 30:2). “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).
While God is all about healing emotional abuse, rarely is this a quick process.
Dr. Randi Gunther suggests four stages that a person must engage in the process of healing from emotional abuse.
Stage 1: Acknowledge the abuse within self and between partners.
Stage 2: Determine to save yourself at any cost.
Stage 3: Exercise powerful compassion.
Stage 4: Become a model for others.
Recovery Step: If you are the victim of emotional abuse, there is hope. Follow the steps above. Get help. Turn to God. And most of all – never give up.
