Lou Holtz said, “Some people find solutions; others find excuses. Excuses are easier to find than solutions.”
We’ve been making excuses for a long time. The first excuse-maker was a lady named Eve. Perhaps you’ve heard of her. We read, “Then the Lord said to the woman, ‘What is this that you have done?’ The woman said, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate’” (Genesis 3:13).
There are several common excuses we hear from sex addicts:
- “My dad introduced me to porn.”
- “My wife offers too little sex.”
- “I was abused as a child.”
- “I have an unusually strong sex drive.”
The list goes on forever. And while it’s true that your past may explain your behaviors, your past doesn’t excuse your behaviors.
Recovery Step: Until you take ownership for your addiction, you won’t take responsibility for your recovery. It’s time to step up – no more excuses.
Author: Mark Denison
Mark and Beth Denison, married for 36 years, launched There’s Still Hope as a national movement to call men and women into lives of sexual integrity. Their ministry offers 90-day recovery plans for addicts and one-on-one and group coaching for addicts and their spouses. TSH also produces resources for pastors and churches to confront the porn epidemic that is destroying so many lives.
Dr. Denison was a senior pastor for over 30 years, NBA chaplain, and board chairman at Houston Baptist University three times. With a Master’s Degree in Addiction Recovery, Mark is a certified PSAP and active member of the American Association of Christian Counselors.
Mark has written four books on recovery: Porn in the Pew, 365 Days to Sexual Integrity, A 90-Day Recovery Guide, and 40 Days to Porn-Free Living. His latest book, Jesus on the 12 Steps, will be released later this year.
