Until you take ownership of the problem, you won’t take responsibility for the solution.
That is one of the fundamental truths of recovery. Most of us had some form of trauma at the genesis of our addiction. Or abuse. Or isolation. Or all three.
None of that is on you. But what comes next is on you.
When the judgment was announced to Daniel, he responded, “I prayed to the Lord my God and confessed: ‘We have sinned and done wrong’” (Daniel 9:4, 5).
Did you catch that? No excuses. No blame game. Daniel owned it. He said, “We have sinned.” He said, “We have done wrong.”
Let me rephrase the words of Daniel.
Until you take ownership of the problem, you won’t take responsibility for the solution.
Recovery Step: Every slip and relapse you have ever had was a choice. Own it. Then – and only then – you can move forward.
Author: Mark Denison
Mark and Beth Denison, married for 36 years, launched There’s Still Hope as a national movement to call men and women into lives of sexual integrity. Their ministry offers 90-day recovery plans for addicts and one-on-one and group coaching for addicts and their spouses. TSH also produces resources for pastors and churches to confront the porn epidemic that is destroying so many lives.
Dr. Denison was a senior pastor for over 30 years, NBA chaplain, and board chairman at Houston Baptist University three times. With a Master’s Degree in Addiction Recovery, Mark is a certified PSAP and active member of the American Association of Christian Counselors.
Mark has written four books on recovery: Porn in the Pew, 365 Days to Sexual Integrity, A 90-Day Recovery Guide, and 40 Days to Porn-Free Living. His latest book, Jesus on the 12 Steps, will be released later this year.
